I heard this talk done recently what health coach’s roles are. Originally when the talk began I thought it would be terribly politically incorrect to openly discuss how it made me feel. Then recently I have been visiting another blog called “My Big Fat Spouse”. Be forewarned if you decide to find it out there in the blogosphere, that it is not for the easily offended. In reading people’s choices I realized that some times we just need to hear the truth. Some times a lot of tough love is needed.
The jest of the blog is that it is where spouses come when they have lost hope there will be a change in their partner who refuses to lose weight and take care of themselves. The advice ranges from dump the slob or slobette to some minor hope that they will change. Now I am taking on both ends of the spectrum. You see this subject is very close to home for me. Basically the progression goes from asking for help, to being turned off by the way they look, and eventually how lazy and broke they are. All of it a progression of justification to get them out of their life because they see no chance of changes. I was off the scale morbidly obese. What if my spouse had stumbled across this site and gave up on me after 30 plus years. So not only was I fat (although no one but a small honest child would say it to me), I was level 3 morbidly obese.
The complaints take a normal course of progression. The spouse starts to put on weight. Then they usually end up with various medical problems to include sleep apnea, high cholesterol, high blood pressure, diabetes , and various other weight related health issues. So not only was I tired but each day I found new reasons not to be active because it all hurt so much.
Lastly I was broke. I didn’t have the energy to use what I was born with to make additional income and things where breaking down and bills were piling up. So all of a sudden I realized the talk I was listening to (although maybe politically incorrect) was describing my life a year ago. Why would I think if it described my life, it would not describe others.
What I found out was in visiting “My Big Fat Spouse” was that it described a lot of people’s lives. It is becoming a story in fact that I am hearing more and more each day. I know the why’s behind it. I also know there is a way out of all of it. However it is only for those that want to change. If not they will continue down the same path I was headed even if it kills them.
Let me give you a for instance. Today I had a talk with someone about our weight loss program. The next presentation is a 20 minute drive from where they live. Oh that was too far. Ok let me come to your home. Oh no, that won’t be needed. Translation, I am not ready to get serious about my weight loss. It is not really a priority in my life. I can’t help this person.
On the other hand I met another person last night that not only sees the future of their weight loss but in the same discussion they asked me if they could become a coach and help others. When I explained that they could and we a full team behind them and training they were ecstatic and hopeful. They already have their eyes on what they can do for others to help get them healthy and gain more of their life back. This person is ready, their goal is already beyond themselves and what’s in it for them. They will do the full journey to health, energy and finances. So send me more of these. Cause the rest can sit back and watch but I for one intend to work with those that are ready!
Excuses are useless and they change your tomorrows. Today is the time to look in the mirror and ask yourself if you are happy with what you see. If not learn to accept yourself where you are and start making the steps toward where you want to be. One step at a time is the way any journey is done. What will be your first step?
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