I often work at show where I see “tons” (pun intended) of people.  They walk by and look at the background and see that we work with weight loss and changes in health and lifestyle and they will often back up.  The ones that stay the furthest away are often the ones that are in the most need of making a change.  What they don’t know is my history and that I realize like any good coach that you can’t take anyone where they aren’t ready to go.

All I can do is tell my story.  Just one short year ago I couldn’t run a block and this weekend I will run my first of what should be many 5k’s.  We are going to be blessed with the perfect weather and I will at least finish and it will be a great day.  Why so great?  Let me explain.

A year ago I would not have even thought it possible.  A year ago I was resolved that life at my age was just going to keep going downhill from here.  I had given up.  So when they avoid us like the H1N1 virus I understand perfectly where they are.  They are still using the same faulty reasoning I used before I felt I had no other choice but to find an answer or die.

Here are some common excuses I hear often:

“I will do it soon or I will do it after the holidays (works for many this time of year)” Translation:  I am not ready to do anything about it no matter how serious I know my condition is.  I have watched people that could barely walk use this when I know they are just a few months from a wheel chair.

“I am too old” This was one of my favorites.  I would justify that I didn’t have it left to do the workouts and whatever it was going to take to get the weight off.  I had tried everything so my metabolism must be so slow that I was going to die fat and miserable.  At 54 this year I feel better than I did at 30 so this one wasn’t working well for me.

“I am big boned or I have bad genetics”. My version of this was the 70’s must have screwed up my body worse than I thought cause I could not do anything to change my weight and my health.  When it gets down to it and you burn up a big boned person verses a smaller boned person the difference is about 4 lbs.  And oh genetics although often used is very, very, rare.

“I don’t have time to eat right.” I have even used this one.  Another version is I can afford to eat right.  I found out when you use this one long enough you can make is a self fulfilling prophesy.  You will have time when you are out of a job because of your obesity and then you won’t have any money to spend of food.  Truth here is if you don’t spend the money to eat right and exercise, you will spend it in health care.

“I enjoy food too much and diets are too restrictive…” Add on to this that diets have never worked and you have the excuse trifecta.   What it really says I don’t have the discipline to do what it takes to change my lifestyle and habits.  What they don’t realize here is that this excuse make them a perfect candidate for a coach and a support system.

Check in with me again and I will write up part two of this article as we examine the excuses for not doing exercise.  What I found over the years I piled up the weight.  I piled up the excuses.  And I added more and more damage to my health and body.  When I look at the research now I realize how much life and fun I gave up to hold on to my excuses.  One year’s worth of work has change my life and many others around me.  Was it worth it?  Yes and in fact I hurts to think how easy it was and how much sooner I could have been enjoying my life more.  But what it got down to was I had to be ready.  I had to be willing.  I had to find someone to talk to that could tell me they could help me get past all my excuses and life a fuller more healthy life.  When is your day?  You know you could finish out the year strong and well on your way to a new you for next year.  What do you say?

 
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To continue on the idea that dieting does not have lasting results when really it is that we set our eyes on the short term effects rather than long term.  If you lost the weight then the diet worked for it’s original goal.  However did you have the lifestyle change and the long term desire for optimal health in mind when it was done.

See this is why diets in themselves don’t succeed for much more then 2 years.  Often times even less.  The goal to lose the weight was about solving the problem and not a long term outcome of being healthy.  Often people won’t even take it as far as reaching their ideal weight before they go back to the same habits that got them in a obesigenic  state in the first place.  Obesity will continue to plague them.

This manifests in the acceptance of poor habits being ok after you have been good for a while.  Motivation cannot come from a half hearted attempt to fix a problem.  It must be more outcome driven.  There needs to be a destination in mind to keep the journey going.  You build your habits around the outcome.  When you get to the top, you have a much clearer view to pick your next destination.  The journey continues from a better lookout point.

Now I am not saying that dieting is not important in the journey.  Having a phased approach where Phase 1 is reaching your ideal weight is essential to creating some form of destination structure.  It is one of the building blocks.  Or better yet it is like a runner’s starting blocks on the track.  It is where it all begins.  It is where the race begins.  But it is soon forgotten as they run around the track to the finish line.  Hopefully that will help you see that it is but one step of the journey to health.  It also from a coach’s point of view gives us an opportunity for a teachable moment.

Most people that come to us to lose weight are very much problem orientated.  They just want to feel better about themselves, lose some weight,  make a family member or friend happy, or make a medical issue better.  They want to solve a problem.  They really don’t have a fixed desired outcome in mind other than a short term problem of losing the weight.   They want it to work.  It does and the pressure is off either a little or a lot and then it comes time to talk about how good it can be now that they are moving in the right direction.

Next we can talk about how to keep motivated to go the distance to optimal health and longevity.  We will talk about how to set yourself up to feel better and live longer than just a short term goal.

 
Weight loss can seem like climbing a mountain.

Weight loss can seem like climbing a mountain.

Normally we are motivated to change when we reach a problem that is big enough we feel that we must change now.  This is often triggered in weight loss when we hear a comment, look in the mirror and notice how far we have let ourselves go,  or like a recent client wanted to look good for a high school reunion.

Now when I have someone come to me that has an event related request to lose weight I counsel them on this reason will not facilitate long term weight loss.  If they are ready to lose weight they must be ready to go the distance, not just shed a few pounds.  And like this client, they will promise me they are in for the full journey.  So off we go, only to find out later that often they will drop out of the journey after the event has passed.

So why does that happen?  Why when they have great success, and are often amazed how easy it was don’t they keep going?  Here is what I have learned is the steps to what Dr. Anderson’s “Habits of Health” refers to as “Conflict-driven” motivation.

First emotional conflict leads us to act.  This could be a report from the doctor’s office that we have high this or that.  Or it could be something like the before mentioned high school or family reunion.  You look in the mirror and realize they can’t see you like this.

At this point we are convinced things must change.  We must take some action.  We can do whatever it takes.  So we start with a decision and a promise to ourselves that we will do it.  So why does it appear that some of us do and some of us don’t?  What happens to that need for change and the emotion attached to it?  Come back tomorrow and lets talk about it.

 

Working_hardEach day my goal is to get up and do my exercise routine.  Normally it takes me about an hour.  I mix it up to keep it challenging my body all the time.  Now this time I am not writing to brag about my weight loss, or how much I work at making my health better.  Today I would like to talk more about getting through the urge to skip or stop on a day or in a moment of other health choices.

There are days when I wake up and I don’t feel like working out or meals I don’t want to watch what I eat.  My waking thought is I am too tired to stick to my plan.  Currently I am doing P90X and there are days I wake up unsure that I can “Bring It”.  This also shows up for me when I am eating outside the house and I have choices to make.  Do I make the right choices or do I splurge and just eat what I want?

Here is what I have discovered that works for me to keep going:

  1. Stop -  Take a look at the decision I am contemplating.  How does it effect my goals?  What are my reasons for not wanting to do it or to do something I know is not the best choice?
  2. Challenge -  Challenge the reasons.  Am I really too tired or just being lazy?  Do I remember what being lazy about my health got me before?  Do I really need to take a break?  Can I really afford to eat this?  What am I giving up?  What is my reward?
  3. Choose -  Make the decision.  I will or won’t but make the decision.  Then let it go!  Don’t beat myself up over it.  Just make the decision.  Be ok with rewarding myself when it is justified.

From there I keep track.  Am I making more choices that adds to my health or am I slipping backwards towards decisions that will worsen my health?  I am either moving towards optimal health or I am moving towards sickness.  It is my choice each time.  The clearer I am about my goals and choices the easier those decisions become.

It is ok to give yourself a break or reward.  Just keep going in the right direction more often and it will get better.  Oh an by the way.  You might not work off that piece of pie right then, but perhaps you can cut your calories the rest of the day to mitigate the damage.  After all it is your choice!

 

Last week was such a great time. It was mixed vacation and training to continue my efforts to become a better coach. All of it was energizing and fun for me. It was also a week that many people would have used the time to totally back down and let go. This would often had been the case.

A view over the Grand Canyon

A view over the Grand Canyon

Back in the day (as my son is so fond of saying) I would have said no let’s just hang out. I have some reading to do. This was code for I am so damn tired that I don’t want to go and do anything. Oh and I was too broke to afford to do anything fun, but that is a story for tomorrow’s post. I just didn’t have the energy and every part of my body was killing me. I always felt like I needed the rest.

I am coming up on a year anniversary in September. It will be a year since I started this journey and started to see the success. First month 25 lbs, second 20 lbs, and onto by the 8th month I was down 97 lbs from my original weight. That was a total loss of almost 20% of my body fat. Ah but the journey continues. Like going on vacation I could kick back and take it easy. I could slip back into old munching habits or what I call my “See food, Eat food” habit. After all I work hard. I deserve a break. What will a day or two (or three, four, etc) cost me. Time to celebrate! Time to let loose! NO! NO! NO! Those same ideas I had when I was 20. I thought back then I could eat and drink whatever I wanted. After all I was invincible.

I had no idea about the ideas of optimal health and longevity. I didn’t understand the value of family and loving relationships. I hadn’t seen the years pass by so quickly. Now before I go any further. I don’t want to set the bar so high to make me out a saint. I went on maintenance early to shake my metabolism up a bit. I increased my workouts and I was stuck for over three months because I needed more calories to keep up. I don’t during one meal eat more then I should or the wrong things. I do my best to plan my day around those activities and I work it off when I slip. I pay the price as well for my choices. I just don’t slip into the old mindset that I deserve to eat whatever the hell I want to. Food is fuel and when I fuel my body with junk I do pay a price.

Hopi Point and two happy trekkers

Hopi Point and two happy trekkers

So you ask, Rick, what is the point of all of this? My point is that when you are on the journey to reach the best health you can have, there is always a diligence involved. It is an awareness of what you do for yourself and to yourself. Something I didn’t have or care to have at 20. There is no way to go back! Just each step is either forward or backward towards your goal. I lost 3 pounds on vacation! Oh and my wife (who has begun my program) lost 4 lbs and now is down a total of 16 lbs in a month. Hooray!

How did this happen. After all we were on vacation and we were supposed to have fun and eat new and exotic foods. It happened because, we watched what we ate. I had some good food but ate it in proper portions and amounts. I stopped (an new experience believe me) when I was full. I did my exercise routine at about half what I normally do because of my intensity recently and my body did need some recovery time. At the same time we walked the Grand Canyon one day for 6 miles. Awesome place for a workout!

What do you want out of life? Where do you want to be this time next year? Is your quality of life worth that candy bar or soda? Not my decision, but it is yours. Is it time to get off vacation and go back to work? Or are you going to take it easy for a bit longer? Let us know what you are thinking!

May your day be everything you wanted it to be, your future bright, and your health and body becoming stronger every day! I can say this part of the journey does not feel like it has such a steep uphill climb and each step it took to get here has been a small price to pay.

 

I am out there reading other peoples blogs and support forums all the time. I do it for a couple of reasons. I look for the reason that most people fail to do weight loss. I also look for the reasons they use not to stick with whatever program they are working with to loose weight.

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They fall into many categories and so I thought this might be a good start for a new set of posts. One of the first reasons people fail I would like to address is the information that is presented on so many fronts. Where ever you go to find weight loss information you will always read why their system works and others don’t. Heck I have been in that arena once or twice. I know what worked for me and I know all the other things that didn’t. I still don’t believe there is an easy solution and I believe that it takes a decision to stop the progression of obesity in one’s body.

So I typically dismiss the magic fixes right away. This includes all pills, herbs and patches. Why? Probably not for the reasons most people would think and that would be because they don’t work. Not at all, they do work for some people, heck even placebo’s work for some people. I dismiss them because they don’t start the process that changes habits. If I wave a magic wand and make you skinny, 95% of the time you will get fat again and come back for the wave of the wand. Why because it was quick, easy, and didn’t require you do change your habits.

However there are several ways to diet that at least begins that process. If you read other information you will see diets don’t work either. This one piece of information had me convinced I was going to have to do weight loss surgery to have anything give me a chance. The fact behind it however is that diets don’t work 85% (John Hopkins) of the time. Why? They often don’t work because people don’t take into account the shift in their metabolism and they don’t maintain the lessons they learned during the diet itself. Read any blog and they will tell you why diets don’t work (or at least other peoples diets besides theirs), but they will never tell you the way to fix it. Oh, and by the way if they don’t tell you for the other diets. They most likely won’t tell you for theirs either.

Obesity in International Perspective

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If on a portion controlled (low calorie) diet then, you raise metabolism by slowly adding more calories back in. No secret. Just don’t jump back into adding the same number of calories back in that you ate before. Take the time to slowly increase your calories based on the amount of weight you lost. Add to that increased activity and exercise and your metabolism will re-adjust to normal. It will not normally stay broken as many articles would indicate. Don’t take my word for it, check with your doctor, dietitian, or nationalists. It will adjust back to a standard Basel Metabolic Rate for your age, sex, and activity level. This will minimalise the weight gain after you complete your diet and go back to “normal” eating. However if you still take in more calories than you use, you will gain it back.

I always suggest that weight loss is easy when you get a few things figured out. It gets even easier when you find someone to help you. But, if you are determined to do it and willing to take the time to find what works for you, you can reach an ideal weight and stay there. Whatever method it is, just make sure to make new choices to keep it when you get it. For if you go back to the same old habits and expect different results. You will get the weight back and all the problems that obesity brings to go with it.

 

So once you work out your long term or “Primary Goal” you have to fuel it with the choices that you make along the way.  These are “Secondary Choices”.  So it begins by breaking down your goal over time.  With health and weight loss I would begin with a year.  So you primary goal defines where in a year you want to be.  You attach vision, emotion and purpose to that goal.  You picture it in your mind and often people are assisted by creating a collage of what that life would look like.

Now it is time to figure out how to get there.  If my goal is a fitness oriented goal what is in the way of getting it done.  First maybe is my current condition of my physical body.  If I had not been working out then I need to start slow enough to not hurt myself right out of the shoot.  Begin with increasing movement and adding a little bit at a time.

There is however a mental set of goals as well here.  What am I going to do to get my butt out the door on the days I don’t feel like it?  Oh it is too cold or too hot out, or I think I am coming down with something, whatever the reason, what will get you to go anyway?  For me I had a list of the things that would not change if I didn’t keep working on them.  For others it may be a list of the people they told they would do this or their blog readers, or just one more look in the mirror that says, “I can’t keep looking like this.”    But trust me there will be mornings that you need something extra to get you out the door.

Perhaps one other thing that most people don’t take the time to think through is the idea of what we are going to do when we fail.  What if I eat something I shouldn’t?  What if I don’t work out today?  What if there is a special occasion and today I just choose not to be on program?  What do you do after those choices?  I know the old me would lean towards losing faith in myself and my plan.  The old me would slowly but surely start to give up.   What I found out was that doesn’t work.  One thing that works for me is to stop for a moment and look at the choice and the consequences and decide what I was willing to give up.

From there I need to look at why this was even a consideration at this stage of my plan and what my next move would be.  Whatever I decided I needed to learn where I was in my journey so I could move on.  No time for regret or excuses.  No time for self pity or loathing.  Just time to make another step, reset my goals, monitor the results of my choice and move on.

Clear you mind daily.  Decide to live life on purpose and stop letting life direct you.  We all make some mistakes.  We all have victories and defeats.  It is what we do with both that effect how we will live and love our lives.  Use your secondary choices to reset your track to your primary goal and you will get there and have the life you worked for.

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